We make our own fairytales


How many of us are guilty of waiting for things to happen? Although I am known amongst those in my personal life, as the hard-working girl that goes after what she wants. I’m definitely guilty for playing the ‘waiting game’. Sometimes, I feel as though fairy tales are partly to blame. It’s actually surprising how exposed we are to those wonderful, fantastical literature. In fact, I wrote my whole dissertation on how these dated tales are still very much alive, regurgitated and rewritten. Constantly reinforcing these stories full of unrealistic characters and happy endings that are simply unreachable. That’s not to say that there are no happy endings in the real world. They just vastly differ from their counterparts.

I find myself witnessing so many girls waiting for their Prince Charming (or princess!) to come swooping in, on a dazzling white horse. That or a knight in shining armour with a head full of thick, wavy hair and sparkling teeth. Then when all the man they are surrounding themselves with are bald and haven’t been to the dentist in a while, they are vastly disappointed.

Dreaming is perfectly fine and I believe it’s an important part of life. However, I also believe, one must actually make those dreams come true. They’re not just going to happen on their own. Things need to be set into motion. Moreover, those dreams need to have an anchor of realism to them. Otherwise, your head is too far in the clouds and you are just setting yourself up for disappointment.

I feel as though Valentines Day comes with a devastating disappointment to those who are waiting, every year, for their true love to appear, slay a dragon and passionately kiss them. It’s apparent when the hopeful girl looks longingly at the cutie sitting at the end of the bar or she’s pretending to ignore another in the grocery store. Secretly wishing they will come up and speak to her. Why wait for this to happen when you can take power into your own hands? Approaching your interest first, will not mean that you’re not going to get a happy ending. It just means you’re taking the initiative. He or she, probably hasn’t even noticed you amongst the crowd. Let’s stop waiting for things to happen and instead let’s go out and make them happen.

 I wanted to create an ideal daytime, date outfit for Valentines day this year. One which will give any girl the confidence to make her dreams happen. Whether this be to muster up the courage to ask a romantic interest out or something entirely different. This outfit balances out the scales of casual and ‘dressed up’. The dress is a perfect pink, combined with the light pink fabric illustrates a feminine, romantic look. To tone this down, I paired the dress with some black wedges which are incredibly comfortable and creates a more casual look, taking away some of the ‘girlishness’. I also added some tanned tights to achieve an airbrush effect for my legs. I completed the look with a gorgeous pair of pink bow earrings and a bracelet to match, tying everything off with a pink bow clutch bag. If you haven’t already noticed, I have a strong love for bows so they add a personal touch to the look. Not to mention I find bows to be the perfect romantic, feminine accessory.

“Stop waiting for Prince Charming. Get up and look for him. The poor idiot is probably lost with too much male pride to ask for directions.”


Dress: BCB Generation Lace-Back Pleated Dress

Booties: Lace Up Black Wedge Boots

Bag: Ted Baker Bag (✕)

Earrings: Ted Baker Ediee Pink Baby Bow Earrings

Bracelet: Ted Baker Enamel Bow Cuff